Post 3!

I think anger is something that a lot of people have a hard time dealing with. In the past, there was many times where I literally just wanted to get up and hit the person that was acting dumb and then just walk away. When I was younger, I couldn’t hold my tongue at all. If someone said something to me that didn’t sit right with me, I would go off on him or her. But, I look back on how I was and just laugh at myself. A lot of the times now, I just sit back and let the person say what they got to say, and then I calmly respond. Or, I just try and avoid it all together because I hate conflict and I hate being angry. But there are still times when I let the person hear how I really feel in an un-calmly manor i.e.: blow up. 

Post 2!

I express anger in many ways. There are definitely times where I just blow up. That is when I have kept so many feelings inside and I can’t keep them in anymore. It could be a very simple thing that someone says to me that sets me off, and makes me blow up. There are also many times where I am very calm when someone tells me something that should upset me. I remember a couple years ago when my boyfriend at the time told me he cheated on me and I was just like “ok, see ya later!” I wasn’t mad or anything. I just kind of laughed and walked away. I guess that shows that he didn’t mean a whole bunch to me J.  But, there are also times where I am very mad on the inside. I am talking fuming mad and I don’t say a word or let the person see me mad. When I express my anger in a blow up fashion, it usually doesn’t go over well because it just makes the other person blow up too. When I express my anger calmly its like the other person hates it and gets even madder. When I don’t express my anger at all and hold it in, I get even madder when I am alone because I should have said something. So, I feel like it’s a lose-lose situation.

Post 1!

With my attitude towards school, I definitely feel that it falls under one of the three solutions, and it is the first solution. The book states that the first solution is that we can make a distinction between work and play. And that we view work as what we do for the sake of something else. With that being said, I view school as something that I HAVE to do for myself, in order to get a better job. I really have to push myself to do school work and go to class. With my work commitment now, I feel that it falls under the first solution as well. I love nannying, but I don’t like my boss, but I do it because it could get me a job at her cooperation. I also do it because it allows me to live the way I want to live (money wise). 

Share the power!

One of my favorite topics from this chapter was that of sharing power. In this section it describes the ones who have the power must value the input of others that they surround themselves with. I think sometimes its really hard for those people that have all the power in a relationship to take in and consider other peoples opinions. I think it’s also extremely hard for those in power to give some of their power to others around them as well. I feel that if someone with all the power gives some of their power to another, that they will over see everything that other person is doing. Just because they still feel that they need to have power and believe that by watching  them closely they still have all the power. 

Unbalanced Power

Being in an unbalanced power relationship could be very frustrating. It can also be very exhausting. But, the feelings depend on what side of the power you are on. If you have more power, you feel that you can dominate everything in that friendship. You feel as if you can decided what your going to do, when your going to do it and how your going to do it and not take your friends suggestions on any part of it. And if they try to suggest something you (being you have more power) shut them down quick, and can possibly say something negative to them. When you have less power in a friendship, you could possibly feel like your nothing compared to your friend who has the power. And that if you try to stick up to your friend that they might criticize you, or not want to be your friend anymore. I think unbalanced power relationships are “crappy” (best word to describe it). I feel that they can either become violent, or mentally and verbally abusive. 

Trust

My old friend and I met when we were in 8^th grade. He and I were best friends for eight years. He knew everything about me, and I knew everything about him. A lot of girls that he dated didn’t understand that he and I were strictly friends and that’s it. And a lot of guys I had dated didn’t understand that he was my best friend and that’s it. Well, when he was in his second year of college he met a girl, and that girl immediately despised me. She didn’t like that he would Skype me every Monday night just to talk and catch up. Then, one day I woke up and checked my email like usual and there was an email from him. This email stated that he could no longer be my friend because of his girlfriend. And I was livid. I couldn’t believe what I was reading. So, when I finally got a hold of him I let him know exactly what I felt. I didn’t talk to him after that and about a week from that email he wouldn’t stop calling and texting me saying he was sorry. That email completely lost all my trust in him. If he could pick a girl over a friendship of eight years, what else would he do? A couple months later at an event I saw them both. He came up behind me and picked me up, and started twirling me around. When I realized it was him, I was just in a shocked kind of state. I had no idea what to say to him and I just looked at him and walked away. I wanted nothing to do with him and I still don’t. It hurts that he would throw away a friendship like he did but I lost every amount of trust I had for him. If I saw him now, I would be cordial and nice, but I would never be open and a friend to him like we were before.