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False attribution was definitely my favorite topic for this week. I feel that everyone goes through them, everyone sees it happen between your group of friends, and a lot of people like to make false attributions about others. Its kind of funny because when you hear a friend of yours making up a complete lie about another friend, you just sit back and watch it all unfold because if you get in the middle its just going to cause more drama for you. Its like a movie, you see the beginning and wait for the climax at the end! Most of my experience with false attributions was in high school. Every week there was some sort of new drama, with the he said she said and to be honest with you it amused the heck out of me! I loved it because I was never involved with it! 

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False attributions suck no matter what. I feel like you can never be civil with someone who makes a false attribution about you. I try to stay calm and not get mad but oh it’s hard to do sometimes. But, the feelings you have are even worse when you make a false attribution about somebody else. You get that panic and your heart starts beating faster when you see that person. In high school I heard something about a friend of mine and I just blurted it out to her one day and she flipped because she thought I said it, then I flipped back on her saying I heard that from so and so. She was super mad at first because she thought it was me but then the person who said it was like no I said it. So, it ended with her not being upset with me. We laughed about it. 

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When I typed forgiveness into my search engine many different things came up. Pictures of forgiveness were at the top, followed by the websites. Forgiveness quotes, forgiveness psychology, what the bible says about forgiveness, forgiveness project and a campaign for forgiveness research were all on the first page of the search. When I typed in reconciliation, four websites came up with the definition of it, and the official website for the reconciliation movie popped up. When I typed in revenge, all of the websites that popped up except two were for ABCs tv show. The other two were about Facebook revenge, and something about Kristen Bell and revenge. The term that produced more results was forgiveness. I think this because it’s a major thing that many people have trouble with. Some of the sites I feel were completely random, and that they wouldn’t help at all. 

Post 3!

 One of the concepts that I really liked for this week was of “face” from chapter 9. The book explains face as being how people see themselves and their images. And honestly, I think a lot of people have trouble, and struggle with this. I think some people are extremely afraid to be whom they really are because they are scared of how others will react to it. Some people have great face. They know who they are and aren’t afraid to show it. And I love meeting people like that. I met one girl a few years ago from a class that we were both in and she was loud, and uncensored and very sure of herself and that was just her. It was refreshing meeting someone like that, instead of a want to be clone of a celebrity or something.

 

Post 2!

One event that has happened in my life that I cant forgive is when my old best friend, for many years, said he couldn’t be friends with me anymore because his new girlfriend didn’t like that I was his best friend. I understand that his new girlfriend might be jealous or scared that we dated or were more than friends, but I feel that she should have talked to me about it before just telling him he couldn’t be my friend. He also should have talked with her about our friendship and that it was strictly friends and that’s it. I think it’s absolutely ridiculous that he would just throw our friendship away for a girl. But whatever floats his boat. A couple months after the decision he made (to not be my friend anymore) he called, emailed, and begged me to be friends again. And I just can’t forgive him. He just threw me to the curb so why would I even consider forgiving him. 

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I think I present myself in a very positive way through my Facebook. I don’t like posting negative things because then others would think I am a negative Nancy. When people look at my profile and read my posts, I hope they get the impression that I am happy, fun and very outgoing. There have been times where I look at other people’s profiles and just think to myself “why would you post that? Why would you swear on a public site?” I just don’t get how some people post the things that they do and they just think its funny. There have been many times where people post things on my wall and when I see them and don’t like it I immediately delete them, then text them asking why they posted that. This relates to conflict and communication because when someone posts something on your profile wall that you don’t like, you have to figure out the best way to tell that person you don’t like it.