I believe that there is a huge difference from being strict on your child, and being an abusive parent. Parents who set rules and expect there children do abide by them are being strict. Parents who hit their children, and I mean hit their child where there are bruises on their skin, or parents who grab their child by the arm and you can still see their hand print on the child’s skin a couple days later are abusive parents. Parents who have a schedule for their children are strict parents. Parents who tell their kids they are worthless and are nothing are mentally abusing their children. But some people believe that there is no difference from strict and abusive, I believe that those are the people we need to be looking out for, because they see nothing wrong with what they are doing.
Country Girl,
ReplyDeleteInsightful posting, I find myself in agreement with you.
Your comment, “But some people believe that there is no difference from strict and abusive,” is of particular merit because so often this is the problem. This is especially true given all the variance between families of different cultures and attitudes, not to mention the parents who were unfit to raise a child in the first place.
Children benefit from a structured environment. As much as it may seem like their ignoring you, deep down it’s reassuring for them to have a set routine. I know this was true for me, even though I didn’t fully understand it until I was in Junior High.
When discipline escalates from verbal sparring into physical contact, particularly that which meets the legal definition of child abuse, a third party is obligated to intervene.Wether in the form of another adult, friend or family member, this may be necessary for calling attention to an abusive situation.
Country Girl,
ReplyDeleteI agree with that there is a difference between being a strict and an abusive parent. The thing with a situation with that is; some parents feel like there isn't a difference and they feel like it will help the child listen and obey. The sad part about that situation is that the kid feels neglected, or when the child has kids of there own they also might find themselves being abusive. I feel like it is tough to change someone's perspective on being strict and being abusive because of the one way they know how to raise children is there own way. Great input on the post.