My old friend and I met when we were in 8th grade. He and I were best friends for eight years. He knew everything about me, and I knew everything about him. A lot of girls that he dated didn’t understand that he and I were strictly friends and that’s it. And a lot of guys I had dated didn’t understand that he was my best friend and that’s it. Well, when he was in his second year of college he met a girl, and that girl immediately despised me. She didn’t like that he would Skype me every Monday night just to talk and catch up. Then, one day I woke up and checked my email like usual and there was an email from him. This email stated that he could no longer be my friend because of his girlfriend. And I was livid. I couldn’t believe what I was reading. So, when I finally got a hold of him I let him know exactly what I felt. I didn’t talk to him after that and about a week from that email he wouldn’t stop calling and texting me saying he was sorry. That email completely lost all my trust in him. If he could pick a girl over a friendship of eight years, what else would he do? A couple months later at an event I saw them both. He came up behind me and picked me up, and started twirling me around. When I realized it was him, I was just in a shocked kind of state. I had no idea what to say to him and I just looked at him and walked away. I wanted nothing to do with him and I still don’t. It hurts that he would throw away a friendship like he did but I lost every amount of trust I had for him. If I saw him now, I would be cordial and nice, but I would never be open and a friend to him like we were before.
Friendships between a guy and a girl can be very difficult. Once we grow up and start dating, the immediate reaction of our partner is to be jealous. I think that it is up to the friends to make sure their partner feels comfortable with that friendship and understands that they have nothing to worry about. This can be extremely hard to achieve and that is why most of the time people just end friendships because they do not know how to handle a relationship and a friendship. It is sad that you are no longer friends with him, but if he decided to shut you off like that then he doesn't deserve your friendship.
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ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed your post this week about trust. Trust is a difficult thing to break unless something really bad happens. I believe a relationship with a male and female even though just friends can be hard because it can lead to jealousy and insecurity. It is not because of the friendship with you and your male friend; but it can be the insecurity from his girlfriend, maybe something happened in her past, his girlfriend's friends telling her stuff and feeding the insecurity. Although I can agree with what you did with walking away from him when you saw him at the event, but maybe you don't want to hold that grudge for that long. But great post.